Choosing Your Bridesmaids
February 8th, 2009As women, when we are asked to be married, the first thing that comes to our mind is the ceremony. We picture it all in white lace, satin and roses. More importantly we already have an image of all of our bridesmaids in our mind. In our perfect picture we see all of our friends, sisters, and cousins standing there in a wonderful taffeta parade. The wondrous glory of it all can make our heart pound with joy. OK, now it’s time to come down from the gold laced clouds and come back to reality. That was fun wasn’t it? The fact is that we could actually have all fifteen of those ladies by our side, but how in the world will your groom come up with that many groomsmen. Not to mention all the personality conflicts that go along with gathering all of them for the task.
When choosing your bridesmaids, it is easier to begin by talking with your fiance. First figure out how many men he will be asking and get them into place. There has to be an equal number of bridesmaids and groomsmen or the wedding dance will not work out very well. Men tend not to think of these things as soon as we do so by letting him go first that part of the ceremony will be planned. This lets the groom off the hook at an early stage of the planning which is usually right where he prefers to be.
Now it is you turn. The bridesmaids are supposed to be the people you want most to share this moment of your life with. It should be the women you choose, not the ones your dear aunt believes is the right choice. There is no rule that says your bridesmaid has to be the person you spend the most time with or your sister. They should be the people you are the most comfortable with. Keep in mind that although there is a great number of women who would be thrilled if they were asked to be a bridesmaid, there are a few who cringe at the mere thought of it. Not because they don’t want to respect the fact that you asked them, because they will probably do it anyway if asked to. But because the idea of a wedding and being a part of it is just not something they would enjoy. Try to be a good judge of character when choosing your bridesmaids, if you know this person would dislike it, then ask the next person on your list. If you do that, then you will be keeping that friend happy which is what you wanted to begin with. This process can be a dramatic event for a bride and her friends so be prepared and try not to fall into the drama yourself.
